tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post1488942667090854050..comments2023-04-07T10:27:50.934-05:00Comments on Xanboni: TrustAlexandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04087069977867729538noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-76695020744593273822010-11-21T23:18:42.029-06:002010-11-21T23:18:42.029-06:00haha :) just call me super mom ;)haha :) just call me super mom ;)sk8rmompnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-67124425557550881282010-11-20T05:22:05.998-06:002010-11-20T05:22:05.998-06:00Giving your child the opportunity to execute the e...Giving your child the opportunity to execute the eye roll is excellent parenting all around. ;)Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04087069977867729538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-52184468504254903502010-11-19T21:38:16.525-06:002010-11-19T21:38:16.525-06:00Excellent post! This topic has been in my mind th...Excellent post! This topic has been in my mind the last week. A mother at our rink is micromanaging her child's skating "career". <br /><br />It's really not my concern except that it is hard to watch. This Mom is running herself and her child ragged, at the same time trying to balance siblings, and I worry that she or her child or her family is going to have a breakdown one of these days. <br /><br />One major challenge is that Mom has contracted with a specialty coach that is a major "rival" of the primary coach. There is a history there, and I don't think that this Mom knows of the history, but for sure she has not "trusted" her primary coach to make the necessary suggestions, or this would not have happened. <br /><br />I just keep saying "ask your coach" when she asks my opinion. I want to scream "Trust your coach" that is what you pay him for. I wish this family the best. I am so afraid that this child will hate skating after this year, and the family will be burnt out. <br /><br />When we were changing my son's specialty coach, we wanted to contract with a certain coach, but our primary coach said no (gave us the reason), and we trusted him. The team has to be cohesive, it doesn't work if you don't listen to the Coach. They have the expertise. Trust them!<br /><br />"Don't sabotage a relationship with a lack of trust. Because we all have just one goal in mind-- the best interest of the child."<br /><br />I think this is such valuable advice and one of the cardinal rules of being an Ice Skater Parent. <br /><br />BTW I do theoretically know the difference between the edge jumps and the toe jumps, I think that this increases my ability to talk with my skater, however he is still trying (in vain) to get me to learn how to identify those jumps as they are executed. No problem with me getting to much technical knowledge in that area as I still say "double axel?" and get "no mom, it was a double toe loop..." with the eye roll.sk8rmompnoreply@blogger.com