tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post2975142659444621655..comments2023-04-07T10:27:50.934-05:00Comments on Xanboni: Mommy, will you tie my skates?Alexandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04087069977867729538noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-69012310192293745182016-12-28T00:23:35.190-06:002016-12-28T00:23:35.190-06:00Great response. The sky is not going to fall if y...Great response. The sky is not going to fall if you "assist" you child with their skates. It is no different than an equipment manager working/repairing equipment to maximize efficiency<br />Sky is fallinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01199605964689186508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-89246704781131412062012-02-10T20:02:33.121-06:002012-02-10T20:02:33.121-06:00"Because I have to tell you, I don't care..."Because I have to tell you, I don't care how many double axels you have--if you're not self-sufficient you're going to bomb on the big stage."<br /><br />Word up.<br />Deserves a post of its own.Babbette Duboisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05721808053479678691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-37091621325660916812012-02-08T13:38:03.608-06:002012-02-08T13:38:03.608-06:00I think both my skaters were doing it by age 7sih....I think both my skaters were doing it by age 7sih. Their feet, their skates. I had huge fights with my son, not tight enough ect. So you fix it the way it feels best for you, they learned fast how to tie.angelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-25053306931573866252012-02-08T08:12:19.334-06:002012-02-08T08:12:19.334-06:00I don't understand why I don't see lace-pu...I don't understand why I don't see lace-pullers more often. I keep one in my jacket pocket and parents are always amazed by them. But I think as big a problem for kids is understanding which part of the lace to pull when. They always try to pull from the top instead of eyelet-by-eyelet from the bottom.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04087069977867729538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-53360594711153096972012-02-08T08:10:12.451-06:002012-02-08T08:10:12.451-06:00HM, so funny-- this is how my daughter finally lea...HM, so funny-- this is how my daughter finally learned to ride a bike (and she was older than 9 I think). She'd been invited to a party by the "in" group at the rink (yes, the ones she no longer talks to because they were so awful) and we had no car. So I told her we can go if you learn to ride your bike. (This was the same party I've spoken of before, where the mothers spent all the time tearing down the girls that weren't there. Awful.) All it takes is a little motivation.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04087069977867729538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-25119900667751596352012-02-07T23:36:06.295-06:002012-02-07T23:36:06.295-06:00I don't remember what age my daughter was when...I don't remember what age my daughter was when she learned to tie her skates but I DO remember she had to do it in a hurry! We had signed her up for "extemporaneous"in a competition (when the skaters are taken to a room where they hear a song and then 15 minutes later they go out to the ice and compete with their improvised programs). We had seen it in the competition the year before and it seemed fun... BUT the parents do not get to see the child again after they go into the room to hear the music. So you either put their skates on and they have to wear them the whole time they are "choreographing" in the room or they have to tie them themselves! So when we realized that was coming, our skate-tying practice sessions took on quite a degree of urgency. But she learned! I'm guessing she must have been 8 or 9.Helicopter Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13585672541812317820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-14843756509224804782012-02-07T07:39:49.974-06:002012-02-07T07:39:49.974-06:00And we have a GREAT blog topic-- "should you ...And we have a GREAT blog topic-- "should you say something?" Sadly, every skating mom ends up reinventing the wheel. And you hit the nail on the head -- it's about allowing her to feel self sufficient and confident!Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04087069977867729538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-44299352562801545982012-02-06T13:20:19.648-06:002012-02-06T13:20:19.648-06:00"during your skater's tv watching time&qu..."during your skater's tv watching time"?<br />Nope, sorry, don't have time for that! :-) <br /><br />Maria, mom of two skaters, 5 and 3 years old, who can't tie their laces tight enough yet, but they untie their laces, and take off and dry their skates. Yes, even the 3-year-old.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-58144454896547408452012-02-06T10:42:25.614-06:002012-02-06T10:42:25.614-06:00I laced dd's skates until a month or so ago(sh...I laced dd's skates until a month or so ago(she is 9). It wasn't until another mom said she should be able to do it herself that I even considered her doing it herself! She softened the blow by telling her own dd/skate/coach story. :D Since we are always in a hurry but for one day a week, we used that day for her to learn how to lace her skates. Now she is a pro at it. What I have noticed though is that it isn't at all about her lacing her own skates. It's about allowing her to feel self sufficient and confident with her own equipment. I'm glad the other mom spoke up. ~MegAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-20218466206147852692012-02-06T08:08:42.928-06:002012-02-06T08:08:42.928-06:00I also think that you have to be careful about wha...I also think that you have to be careful about what you're teaching your kids. What's more important-- self sufficiency, or those extra 5 minutes of ice? Because I have to tell you, I don't care how many double axels you have--if you're not self-sufficient you're going to bomb on the big stage.<br /><br />And no, 8 is not too young to teach it.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04087069977867729538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-66692975315928533152012-02-06T08:07:09.731-06:002012-02-06T08:07:09.731-06:00"As some of the examples above show, it's..."As some of the examples above show, it's not about a set age, it's about knowing your child and having the guts to say, ok so it'll take longer and I might end up re-tying them in 5 minutes, but it's time for the kid to tie their own laces!"<br /><br />ThisAlexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04087069977867729538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-3906641480355280462012-02-06T07:46:22.079-06:002012-02-06T07:46:22.079-06:00When the kids skate before school, their parents w...When the kids skate before school, their parents will often dry the skates for them as the kid is removing the other skate and then running to get changed. I don't see this as a problem as these kids dry their own skates at after school or weekend sessions, but having the parent do it before school saves a couple of minutes time.<br /><br />I think parents start tying the laces of their 6 year old (probably not able to do it themselves), continue tying the laces of their 8 year old (should be learning to do it themselves), and somehow find themselves still tying the laces of their 14 year old (should be able to do it themselves!). <br /><br />As some of the examples above show, it's not about a set age, it's about knowing your child and having the guts to say, ok so it'll take longer and I might end up re-tying them in 5 minutes, but it's time for the kid to tie their own laces! <br /><br />Even if kids aren't strong enough to lace their skates tight enough, they should be able to untie them, removed them and dry them (even if they need help with the knot, they can unlace them themselves) from a younger age.Turnipnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-3313880480416144542012-02-05T21:25:41.721-06:002012-02-05T21:25:41.721-06:00I recently starting teaching my 8yo how to tie her...I recently starting teaching my 8yo how to tie her own skates with the next size up boot we have at home. She's always been super particular about the tightness of her skates (I remember getting blisters trying to get them tight enough for her liking). Anyhow, until she builds up her skate tying strength & gets it right at home no way am I going to let her experiment at the rink. Time is precious and I can tie both those suckers in under a min... that's approx 10 minutes of sleep I can continue to have! But once she hits 9 like it or not I'll sacrifice a few minutes of sleep so she can do it herself.AbominableIcemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11568210898096060565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-19734646337623416842012-02-05T14:21:57.576-06:002012-02-05T14:21:57.576-06:00There's apparently a market for lace pullers m...There's apparently a market for lace pullers made for kids. The reviews I see on the lace pullers available is that they're designed for adults. What adult needs a lace puller? Unless they're tying their kids laces?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-51982220673257391212012-02-05T13:45:11.979-06:002012-02-05T13:45:11.979-06:00Good point, although I've had classes where ev...Good point, although I've had classes where everyone is late because of this problem.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04087069977867729538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-80686662627392377592012-02-05T12:33:47.957-06:002012-02-05T12:33:47.957-06:00My nine year old can now tie her own skates, altho...My nine year old can now tie her own skates, although she had some trouble with her new ones until they broke in somewhat because they were so stiff.<br /><br />At the risk of sounding santimoneous, as the parent who gets my kid to the rink in time for her to get laced up every time (because I chose times we can make), it drives me CRAZY when ice time gets wasted because other parents can't do the same or want to have a discussion with coach when Princess is already coming on late, etc. I vote no to the on ice tying lesson; that's a parent job and it's not fair to the kids who get there on time and have it together.<br /><br />She Who Has Clearly Become a Curmudgeon ;)Debnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-74457274126101717192012-02-05T11:06:29.036-06:002012-02-05T11:06:29.036-06:009 year old hockey boy has been able to tie for abo...9 year old hockey boy has been able to tie for about a year -- really needed help to pull tight enough till then. But, 5 year old (almost 6) figure girl can tie just fine on her own (and can tie her 4 year old sister's skates, too). Agreed, though, they just need to start trying it on their own, whether successful or not, before they get too dependent on always being helped.hockeyfiguremomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18048245908407179638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-7056133697275749992012-02-05T08:10:02.151-06:002012-02-05T08:10:02.151-06:00"she was never going to build enough strength..."she was never going to build enough strength if I didn't let her try" <br /><br /><br />ThisAlexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04087069977867729538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-19399177566354835412012-02-05T08:09:30.045-06:002012-02-05T08:09:30.045-06:00Clearly any "rule" must be adjusted for ...Clearly any "rule" must be adjusted for individual circumstances.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04087069977867729538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-40005247176789531782012-02-05T07:25:02.412-06:002012-02-05T07:25:02.412-06:00I tied my daughter's skates far too long. She ...I tied my daughter's skates far too long. She wanted them very tight and didn't have enough strength. But then, she was never going to build enough strength if I didn't let her try.<br /><br />It took her about 2 weeks to really get it right.<br /><br />Although, it seems about 1Oyo is when kids start tying their own around here. I do notice some difference between the big jumpers and the smaller/not jumpers: big jumpers really seem to tie tighter and retie more often.josetteplank.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16790825543155685363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-31856283508329044242012-02-05T05:14:15.001-06:002012-02-05T05:14:15.001-06:00I've had problems with hand strength too (turn...I've had problems with hand strength too (turning keys was a major one). It usually takes me a few tries to get my skates tight enough but having other people do it feels like they're pulling my foot off! :P<br /><br />I started skating as a teenager, so I can't comment on the age thing, but last week I could have used some help. I was injured, and my boots were loose because it hurt too much to tie them tightly. :(The Same Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-34856901351468867122012-02-04T23:36:34.482-06:002012-02-04T23:36:34.482-06:00My 10 yr old, juvenile level, daughter has always ...My 10 yr old, juvenile level, daughter has always had tiny hands. I remember her sobbing in frustration because she didn't have the hand strength to work the hole punch for a kindergarten assignment. She's had no trouble tying her own shoes since age 5, but can't seem to get her skates tight enough. She works on it and eventually she will be completely self sufficient, but I'm not going to feel bad about helping her with them now. If she ties her own skates she can't do her double Axel. (Can't land it when I tie them either, but she's getting closer!)maiselcathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01685380364164290310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-22254217353701266852012-02-04T22:51:49.621-06:002012-02-04T22:51:49.621-06:00I have two newly 8-year-olds twins, girl in FS2 an...I have two newly 8-year-olds twins, girl in FS2 and boy in hockey. Girl can now put her own skates on, she learned last year when she was 7. However as you say, we are often short on time, I'm a working mom and girl skates 3-4 times a week. It's rushing - so often I help her put them on. I can't afford expensive private lesson time on her lacing her skates. I also don't want her to miss warm-up. Boy is not even close. He is now finally taking all his gear off on his own. I'm glad for that. But the fact that I help them put on their skates doesn't frazzle me a bit. I'll try to get them ready by summer camp to fully do this on their own, but in the meantime, seriously I don't care. I need to make sure that their skates are on properly, I spend so much money at the rink, it's important to me they get the best out of it. I understand that the camp situation would be maddening, but otherwise I don't quite get it why this would be source of worry if my 8 or 9-year old needs help putting his/her skates on?!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-20279551978681178052012-02-04T21:10:55.017-06:002012-02-04T21:10:55.017-06:00I feel awkward especially if it's like girls a...I feel awkward especially if it's like girls age 14+ having moms tie AND untie AND dry their skates? Seriously?jjane45noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-466093691926458332.post-59029314927934879842012-02-04T18:32:13.854-06:002012-02-04T18:32:13.854-06:00great post. Drives me nuts to see parents of 8+ ye...great post. Drives me nuts to see parents of 8+ year olds tying their skates. I think it is less to do with being harried and more to do with an need to feel indispensable and "involved"anonymomnoreply@blogger.com