Okay, do's and don'ts for the scary kids-- Ages 11 to 14!
Ags 11-14
Do
Parents
• Teach responsibility and self-reliance
• Be supportive
Coaches
• Share responsibility
• Expect responsible behavior
• Discuss the future
• Keep it fun
• Set clear boundaries
Don’t
Parents
• Do things child can do for self (This means you, all you moms tying your 11 year old's skates)
• Panic when beliefs and values are questioned
Coaches
• Ignore signs of distress
• Ignore relational and social concerns
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"• Do things child can do for self (This means you, all you moms tying your 11 year old's skates)"
ReplyDeleteChildren can be very tricky... My mom did not take a stand on tying my skates for me until I was 12 or 13. I do recall complaining about my hands and arms and all sorts of things just to have her do it for me... Eventually she took a stand on the matter and started dropping me off until I did it myself. I do however, believe that I would have started doing it myself anyways, as the embarrassment of having my mom tie my skates for me would have set it after not too long.
Particularly in the skate tying, parents do this because the kids are slow, and the parents hear the clock ticking on the coaching fee. But kids are slow because they know the parent is going to do it.
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